CHANGE // on you !

Today let's talk about CHANGE, as weather changes, some writers have named it as human nature because it changes too. However, to me weather is entirely different as compared  to human nature. Weather changes accordingly, according to time but nature of human ? It has no specific time or rules, it doesn't change in accordance with time, like if a person get rid of anyone or anything, they cannot get back to the time when they used to like them. 

Change is certain in every persons life, what truly matters is how people take it, as if you grow, learn, start giving yourself more time and people start hating this thing of yours as you're busy in your own, then you need to reconsider it whether these people want to see you grow or not ? If they judge you for your change and do not see you're growing, do not celebrate your growth, then it's better to leave them behind and just keep moving ahead. Some will be with you at your low and they'll also be with your growth.

As previously mentioned, change is certain, but emotions are not, our soul, heart, emotions and so on are the things which makes us a human, so if you ever get hurt, do not change your emotions. No no one can make you coldhearted contrary to your will.

Change is constant, but don't let it consume the person you are. You have to reamin yourself, just grow and celebrate that Tremendous change of growth. 

Let's cease this terrible custom

Today I want to talk about one of the barbaric custom which has been highly pervasive, so immediately we ought to take some major steps to cease this unethical system in the name of social concern, religion, ritual etc., it is Infibulation, you might be listening this word for the very first time, meaning of this word is dreadful, you might get  goosebumps. Infibulation is - locking of vagina, by stitching almost all area leaving just tiny hole to let it leak. This sounds disgusting, right?? However this practice is widespread in unprivileged areas. People who follow this consider it as the safety for women, to let them be Virgin till their marriage. 

A little girl at the age of about 5, faces Infibulation, she is forced to be the victim of this atrocity. Her vagina is being stitched at this little age and then her legs are tied with rope for about a month to heal that wound, just because people consider virginity more significant then her health. We could not even think of the pain she goes through when it happens to her, that naive young girl has to face this in the name of sacred practice. Furthermore, It is the proof of her virginity. At the first night of her wedding,,  those stitches are penetrated or are being cut ruthlessly by her husband. How cruel it is that at first night, to have intimacy with her whether reluctantly or willing, her husband cut it off, the pain and aliments she suffer remains inconsiderable and her husband is entitled of her body. In fact it is the myth that she belongs to her husband and he can forcefully get whatever he desire from his suffering wife. 

The question is - Why virginity is everything to define a girl. Why she is forced to save it more than saving her health and other aspects of life ???

I shed few tears after getting to know about this terrible  custom, performed by some rascals. About 100 million girls are subjected to this atrocity every year in all over the world. I highly contempt this custom, it is injustice. People need to be aware of this so that they can take major steps to stop this cruelty. We need to educate people who follow, this so called proof of virginity, so that they do not let their daughter or sister suffer anymore. They should be taught to take care of her health first, if she is asked to prove her virginity to her in-laws, she should have the tendency to reject that marriage proposal, and it can happen only if she is educated enough, focus should be in career, in the life she want to have, it will make her loved ones delighted and proud. Let her flourish. Our system forces parents that the only responsibility they have towards their daughter is to get her a sacred marriage, and for boys, to get a virgin wife who can do anything asked by her in-laws, this makes parents perform such custom "Infibulation" so that they can provide a virgin girl to her in-laws regardless the fact that it is absolutely wrong and illegal.

We have got to know about this custom, it's reasons and cure as well. All we need is to spread this message as much as possible so that people who need to know this will hopefully get to know and they immediately stop this hypocrisy,  and let those girls flourish.